“You tried to make me small
Make me fall and it's all your fault
With the pain you put me through
And now I know that it's not me it's you
Make me fall and it's all your fault
With the pain you put me through
And now I know that it's not me it's you
Always has been you
All the lies and stupid things you say and do
It's you”
All the lies and stupid things you say and do
It's you”
It’s Not Me It’s You – Skillet
You know that old excuse “it’s not you, it’s me”? It’s the
phrase we tend to use to shy away from confrontation and try to protect the
feelings of others. It puts the blame back on ourselves and our own issues we
claim to have. But sometimes the bottom line is: It. Is. You.
This song by Skillet is a great relief to hear as it says what
most of us are afraid of voicing: it accuses the other person in the
relationship of forcing someone to blame themselves and causing a series of
harsh emotions. This is such an easy
thing to do and it is such a shame how much we second guess ourselves. As much
as external conflict is hard to face, inner conflict can be much more damaging
– especially when it is put on to us by someone else. There is a powerful
moment in this song in which they realise the other person is putting them
through so much pain and hurt, but when they go away they are free. I love how
this song throws the hate back in the other person’s face. That’s what it is:
hatred. Not a hate of the other person per say, but a hatred of being treated
inferior and being bullied.
I sometimes wonder whether I could ever say to someone they
are the problem in real life. I am lucky enough not to have someone or
something I would describe as poisonous interfering with me, but if I did I
wonder if I could face them. And could you?
It’s one thing planning the confrontation in your head and another to
actually say it without backing down out of fear of facing the problem and
potentially a creating a much worse scenario of denial and accusation, until
you see the very worse side of a human being. Because I really do believe
making someone feel utterly inadequate is a horrible thing to do.
My feelings of not being able to stand up to someone causing
such issues in my life (again, thankful I do not have these and I empathise
with anyone who does) makes me so grateful for bands like Skillet who say what
everyday people are thinking but are powerless to voice. This song is powerful
and gritty and tells such an awful story, but like with most of Skillet’s songs
there is hope and a hidden light. And so, when anyone asks who my favourite
bands are I always mention Skillet as I feel they are the voice which
represents us all and our issues and speaks up for those of us who can’t.
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